It literally breaks my heart when I'm getting to know a guy over text. You start talking about where your from, what you do for fun, what you want to do when you're older. He eventually asks you for a picture so he knows what you look like... Then, all of a sudden, you read those words that make your teeth cringe and fill your eyes with tears. The question that makes me wonder how guys even have the nerve to ask..."will you send me nudes?"
I was put in this situation tonight, and I've been put in it a time or two before. I never hesitate to say "no" though. I have many reasons why I'm against this, and can't even begin to explain how degrading it is to women. One, it is illegal. Why would you ever put that girl in such a position? I've read so many stories about girls sending inappropriate photos out and having the recover send them other kids. In the end, the girl will commit suicide all because of one irresponsible decision. Two, like I said before, it's degradable, and offensive. I can't begin to explain how used and mistreated I feel when I get asked this question. I thank God that I was raised in a church and to have high standards, and once you pop that question, I lose a ton of respect for you. Three, I barely knew the guy. How can a guy ask such a question when he only knows my name and what I like to do? I don't understand the thought process of some guys. It just makes me wonder if that's all guys ever think about.
If I were to have said yes, he would've thought he could have more. Which is highly night the case here. I know where I stand, I know my standards, and what I believe in. God puts us in situations to see what our outcome will be. Thankfully, I passed this test, but my heart still breaks for all the girls who get asked this. Peer pressure is hard to overcome, but with God, it's possible to overcome it.
In 1st Timothy 2:9 it says " I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes."
You shouldn't feel the need to satisfy a guy by doing things that don't please God. If he truly likes you for who you are, he won't ask for such things.
In Matthew 15:19 He says "for out of the heart comes sinful thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony,slander. Those are what make a man 'unclean';but eating with unwashed hands does not make him 'unclean'
God is saying that we all have sinful thoughts, but it's how we respond to them that matters.
In Galatians 5:3, God talks about how we shouldn't do things a certain way to impress a guy, much less others
"For of this you can be sure: no immoral, impure, greedy person-such a man is an idolater- has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God."
1st Corinthians 6:19
"Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own"
Our body is sacred and something we should honor to glorify God. We should have respect for ourselves and not let anyone take advantage of us just because we want to impress someone.
John 7:24
"Do not judge by appearances, but judge with right judgment.”
We shouldn't judge others by what they look like. Looks don't last forever, but a good heart does. Make sure you're going after someone who's into doing the right thing. Not because they have good physical features.
I read on twitter once that when a guy asks for an inappropriate photo, to send your favorite bible verse back to him. I never got around to trying it, but I think it's a wonderful idea and something I will try next time. You see, there are good guys out there. God has the perfect timing and his ways will always endure. Some guys, and ladies, do not have the privilege of being raised in a Christian home and it breaks my heart to know that. It's hard for me to fathom my life without my Savior. I pray for the guys that mistreat girls and think its okay to ask questions that don't make them feel worthy. I pray for the guys who weren't raised in a Godly environment to be able to have high standards and know what true love is. I pray for the girls out there who have and are in the situation I am and were able to stand up to them. I also pray for the girls who gave in, and fell into peer pressure not knowing that they were more special and didn't deserve to be put in such a position.
Like I said, if it wasn't for my high standards, my beliefs, and my faith in God, I would not have had the courage to say no. My point is modest is hottest, and no one deserves to be put in a situation to where they feel like they have to be uncomfortable to keep someone satisfied. I pray that the guys who ask such questions and desire such things, come to the realization that it is unacceptable to treat a girl like that.
God Bless.
